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What is the Opposite of Anxiety?

What is the Opposite of Anxiety?

If I were to ask you, "what is the opposite of anxiety? " I'm guessing you'd say something like: calm, peace, relaxation.

Right?

Sounds pretty good. And on the surface of things, I think this makes sense. If anxiety is an agitated, wound up, nervous energy, then something soothing like calm or peace seems to be the opposing emotional experience….

Change is Hard

Change is Hard

For most of us, there are things we know we want to change in our lives: habits, thoughts, ways of showing up in our relationships, career paths, how we're spending our time, what we do with our money...

But knowing we want, or even need, to change something vs. actually making the change? Well.

That's tricky.

Because: change is hard

Let's Talk About Guilt

Let's Talk About Guilt

"I feel so bad about it..." <-- This is how most of us are feeling about...well, basically everything, amiright?? Parenting, work, our homes, friendships, how we're showing up in our marriages...you name it, we can feel guilty about it.

Why is that?

You Are Not Stuck w/Becky Vollmer

You Are Not Stuck w/Becky Vollmer

Ohhhh I have something so FUN for you this week: my dear friend,  Becky Vollmer , has a new book out in the world (birthed on January 3, 2023) and I brought her on  The Transforming Anxiety Podcast  to talk all about it.

Becky is like that wise, sassy, older sister who is full of encouragement and shares her hard-earned life lessons, and she's heavy on the love part of "tough love."…

Breathing for Anxiety

Breathing for Anxiety

I have something really important for you this week on  The Transforming Anxiety Podcast : we're going to talk about  breathing for anxiety .

For sure, someone somewhere along the way has suggested you "take a deep breath" when they noticed you were feeling anxious or overwhelmed. You've likely handed out this advice yourself; it's almost a knee-jerk response when we see someone is upset. "Ok...take a deep breath..."…

Wintering

Wintering

Now that winter is upon us and we're into the cold, dark, quiet of the season I thought we'd explore this together. Winter is a time of year, but it's also something that we experience in our lives: those fallow, dormant, even painful periods of wintering that we all cycle through.

No Goal New Year

No Goal New Year

Welp, it's that time of year. When we all get serious about New Year's resolutions, plans for 2023, and goals.

But I have an idea and want to explore it with you on this week's episode of  The Transforming Anxiety Podcast : how about a  no goal new year

When You're In It

When You're In It

This one goes out to the version of you that is IN IT...that is having the worst time, feeling the most intense feelings, and can barely imagine how things will ever feel okay or normal again.

I hear you. I see you. I've been there…

Outer Order Does Not Create Inner Calm

Outer Order Does Not Create Inner Calm

On this week's episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast I want to challenge the notion that outer order creates inner calm...because maybe NOT .

I mean...have you seen Monica on Friends? Have you ever been around someone who is a complete neat freak? Are YOU kinda sorta obsessed with tidiness?…

Anxiety is Okay

Anxiety is Okay

Now, for this week's episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast, we're talking about anxiety, specifically how anxiety is okay​.

Because there's an underlying assumption that anxiety is bad, that it's something to be avoided, that we need to resist it. This is how we react to it. Even in our conversations about transforming anxiety, there's the unspoken idea that we'd want to because: anxiety = bad…

The Foundation of You

The Foundation of You

This week on The Transforming Anxiety Podcast we're going back to the basics; we're going to talk about the foundation of you.

A foundation is the lowest level of a structure, the load-bearing support that holds everything up. And THAT is what I want to consider with you today…

Protecting Your Efficiency

Protecting Your Efficiency

Now, despite the word "efficiency" in the title of this week's episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast, this is NOT a discussion about time management, life hacks, and getting more done. In fact, this is about the *opposite* of that stuff…

It Matters...and It Doesn't Matter

It Matters...and It Doesn't Matter

As you go through the motions of your day, it's easy to lose track of the bigger picture. We get so mired in our to-do lists, the work deadlines, the kids' activities, and just trying to keep our heads above water, that we can completely miss the larger perspective.

Or any perspective, really…