Developing Self-Trust

Developing Self-Trust

One of the hottest topics with my clients is self-trust...it doesn't matter if you want to break old habits (i.e. overdrinking, staying up too late, feeling anxious) or clean up your (physical / mental / emotional / financial) health routine or simply feel good in your own skin, whatever it is you want for yourself that you don't currently have? It requires self-trust…

Being Yourself

Being Yourself

We're going to do something a little different this week on The Transforming Anxiety Podcast...I want to have a conversation with you about something I'm personally working on.

This is not unique to me at all; it's something I suspect is the work ahead of many of us. And that is: Being Yourself

Being Mentally Fit

Being Mentally Fit

We are all *well versed* in the benefits of physical fitness at this point. It's no secret that exercising regularly is great for our bodies, minds, and supports us emotionally, too.

And I got to thinking...what about being mentally fit? What would it look like to extend our ideas of physical fitness to our mental and emotional states, too? And not just the perks of moving our bodies, but intentionally cultivating mental fitness…

Stolen Confidence

Stolen Confidence

Women struggle with anxiety for a handful of reasons, but one of the biggies is a lack of confidence.

We treat confidence like we got lucky and have it, or don't. That it's something we may magically feel someday down the road, but can't right now. That it's on the opposite end of the emotional spectrum from anxiety...meaning: we can either feel anxious OR confident, but certainly not both…

You Are Enough

You Are Enough

There's a strong undercurrent of "not enough" in our culture...

We are always trying to be better, thinner, funnier, smarter, richer, and further along than we are right now. There's a never-ending striving towards MORE. Having more, producing more, doing more...

Have you noticed??…

The Opportunity Cost of Anxiety

The Opportunity Cost of Anxiety

We are constantly making decisions: this or that? In or out? Option A or option B? And I'd like to consider the opportunity cost of one of these (emotional) decisions in this week's episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast.

Specifically: what do we give up when we "choose" (however subconsciously) anxiety? What is the opportunity cost of anxiety?…

Can't vs. Don't Want To

Can't vs. Don't Want To

Tell me, how often have you said something like:

  • I can't handle it when my boss is so demanding

  • I can't go through with that conversation

  • I can't handle it when the kids are sick

  • I can't imagine how I'd get through that kind of situation...

Name the Elephant

Name the Elephant

This week's episode of The Transforming Anxiety Podcast is one that cuts straight to the heart of *so much* of the anxiety that we create for ourselves...

Like, have you noticed when you do something that puts you on edge (say, going to the dentist, or being in a large crowd) your tendency is to pretend that everything is fine and you are totally cool?…

Peace-Keeper vs. Peace-Maker

Peace-Keeper vs. Peace-Maker

Anyone else find themselves going through the day, just trying to keep the peace?

Between the kids, the co-workers, the family, and the love-her-but-she's-kinda-tricky friend...not to mention the bigger world and all the COVID disagreements and social injustice and political upheaval...well, my friend, there's a lot of unrest that could use some peace-keeping…

Control vs. Influence

Control vs. Influence

One of the truthiest truths I know is that we are all trying to get control. Control of the kids, our schedules, our bank accounts...control of the pandemic news, the political opinions, the understanding we have about what's going on in the world...control of our minds, how we're feeling, and what we're DOING, dammit…

Compare & Compete

Compare & Compete

Well, ready or not, 2022 is here!

And instead of wishing you a "happy new year" I'm just going to say: "new year!" Because really, it doesn't have to be happy. Or easy. Or peaceful. Or certain. If we've learned anything the past 2 years, we've learned to adjust our expectations of what might happen. So I'm going to just stick to the facts here: new year to you!…

Setting Goals

Setting Goals

Happy (almost) New Year! 2022...and who the hell knows what this year will hold. I think most of us stopped guessing in early 2021 when it became pretty clear life was gonna be just as life-y as it wanted to be... 🙃

And although we're certainly along for this ride (whether we like it or not) and it's obvious we don't have control over how things are gonna go *out there*, there's actually a decent amount of authority we all have in our lives when we turn our attention inside…